i was able to get past that because me and Jacob came up with a creative way to get around it and STILL register for gifts. The plan was to pick a few places to register and then take advantage of the percentage most places give off for about 30 days after the wedding.
SO we register and then we get married and THEN we go shopping and get all our own things at a discounted price. Nice. I knowwwwww;)
but then I just recently attended a good friends shower and was a bitttt sad that I wouldn't be getting one of my own. And that's when things got crazy!!! My girl friend insisted that I still have a shower and I will pass all the blame. She's super cool and immediately had me convinced that YES...I do still need a shower!!!!
after running this by several (10) people....I'm thinking it's doable. I have done research on the Internet. Below are just 3 places that I've read through and it seems that the consensus is that I can, in fact, have a wedding shower without looking like a greedy bitch. And I'll be the first to admit...I love a present. This is true. BUT I also would hate anyone thinking I was doing this ONLY for gifts. I'm not going to lie, that's a huge perk. But after being at my friends and seeing all her friends and family together....celebrating her. Yep. I knew I needed to get me a cute dress and have people over to my place to drink wine and tell me how pretty and lucky I am;)
OH, and have a wedding shower:)
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here are the 3 sites that I refereed to above. They each break down to say:
1/ you CAN have a wedding shower even if you're having a SMALL/Intimate Destination-type wedding
2/ you can NOT invite everyone and anyone...don't get crazyyyyyy
3/ you MUST send out a Save the Date to those you plan on inviting to the Wedding Shower before said Wedding Shower to let guests know that they are invited to a "reception" following the SMALL/Intimate Destination-type wedding
SO in the wedding world this is acceptable and not that I'm not all about bending...breaking...the rules but I really didn't want to get the whole town talking about that ahole bride who's expecting presents but not down with inviting 'them present givers' to our wedding. And that is SO not how we feel.
IF we could afford to invite Jacob's 2nd grade teacher and that Gander Mountain check-out girl that he's taken a liking to, we WOULD! I'd want them there to soak up some of the love! But I fear that even if we could afford it...we would never have chosen to have a big wedding. SO it's not about anyone not being good enough, or smelling, or having an obnoxious child...or 2, or having too healthy an appetite for our $23 per plate bill OR even being a heavy drinker.....We love you all...we love you all enough not to expect you to come all the way out of town to see us get married!!!
We'll blow it up on a big screen and we'll paste it to the walls at our reception and all within driving distance of your comfy homes:)
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